Mindfulness is training the mind to slow down, let go of negativity and get rid of chaos to maintain clarity in all environments and decision making in life. By learning more about it and practicing different methods of mindfulness, we can make a significant positive change in our life and those we interact with overall. Gratitude is the practice of being thankful and appreciative of outcomes through kindness.
A highly productive person is not busy with large lists of tasks, and obligations. The same is true for relationships and personal connections. Our reality is based upon what we are actually physically and mentally capable of doing or being able to complete. In today's society, we are not actually present to live our reality we are constantly pushed. This is why balance and clarity are so important in maintaining oversight of and without it we live a false truth. Balance is healthy and when a person is truly balanced, they can calmly focus and make cognitive smart decisions without second guessing themselves and not trusting their own guts. When we do not maintain balance, life becomes addictive and keeps our minds cloudy, we feel insecure and either feel rushed or pressured to make decisions that do not align well with healthy outcomes. These addictions can be to anything; and are always above or below balance a few examples include overachieving, overdoing, giving too much or too little of us to others and our obligations which does not feel calm, peaceful or solid. We hear about addictions in food by eating too much or too little, drugs and alcohol too much, shopping, spending money too much or too little, working too much or too little, over parenting or neglecting, perfection, lethargy, etc. all which are unbalanced behaviors. When we are born as children we are supposed to be balanced and connected equally to both of our parents and our environment. If that balance is offset in anyway, it causes children to be stressed and the stress creates unhealthy behaviors and environments which are learned by and handed down in families. These behaviors we take with us through life, we add to them as our environments change and we learn more. However, our behaviors do not change from what we learned early on or felt unless either we take accountability to change and make decisions or we go into supportive environments, which can positively or negatively impact our behaviors.
Mindfulness techniques come into play positively as we start to train our brains to work against the norms that society promotes, which create unhealthy connections, environments, pressures and imbalance in our life overall by watching the news or social media. By practicing mindfulness, we stop to do things such as yoga, grounding, taking breaths, etc. all which teaches us new slower mind behaviors that are rooted in our own selves and security for brief moments. This creates boundaries to outside pressures which eliminates guilting, lists, obligations and overextending ourselves in addictive behaviors which become unbalanced. A human being only has a limited amount of time and capacity of doing stuff in a day, this is true in maintaining real high quality human relationships that are truly connected not just electronic ones, managing our ability to clearly, safely and competently complete tasks or responsibilities to work, others, family, house and ourselves. Trauma is the pain we suffer from learning to be unbalanced early in life, when we lose security, trust and safety in our own person early on our behaviors begin to overcompensate to bridge the gap of that pain and it is further compounded by our environments and those in them. We are not born feeling insecure, anxious, to wear a mask of perfection, become addicted to things, compare, compete, overcompensate, etc. we learn this from family and it can harm our beliefs and relationship with ourselves to erode self-trust. When mindfulness is practiced, we learn to slow down and reconnect with our true self to learn self-security to be happy with our current outcomes, situations, relationships, look at our blessings and trust our decision making independently it makes us self-aware with strong boundaries. A person creates their own balance by giving themself time, breaks, rational and cognitive thoughts about what they can do without stress, chaos or unwanted interference by feeling pressured. By truly giving ourselves the gift of a few minutes of peace we become highly engaged, productive and happier with not living a false reality or looking for confidence from others in relationships we would never realistically have a chance to be humanly engaged with. We learn to silence that chaos and control of society, our families, unrealistic pressures and expectations to reduce stress. Life becomes positive, happy, healthy and balanced as well as accepting that we are where we are for a reason, and we need to make independent decisions by setting goals to get ahead. We look forward to waking up and living each day to the fullest, work hard, be supportive and kind because we know that we have mental security in ourselves so we treat others as we would want to be. This is what creates true impactful emotional intelligence because we cannot be triggered into negative behaviors or accepting it in our environments, relationships or what we do in life. A person can truly be the best of themself within the limits of reality. The best part of this is that we can then impact those in our environments in support of healthier and happier behaviors. We will be better parents, partners, employees, citizens and kind human beings not looking to overcompensate in any way but create support and balance. Mindfulness reduces stress which decreases long term illnesses which result from stress to lead to cancer, heart disease, diabetes. Stress also creates high tension environments which leads to behaviors that cause conflict in relationships, families as well as society it leads us to lose our independence then feeling unsafe.
Being grateful allows the mind to accept life, circumstances and embracing all about life to be happy. Gratitude does not ignore how or what happens to us in life positively or negatively but allows us to appreciate everything even if we have to face challenges as opportunities to learn from. Embracing life with compassion and valuing everything outside of just monetary possessions. We can choose to live each moment as a gift and blessing that we will never get again, or we can dwell on things to hold us back which does not allow us to live our best life.
In closing, mindfulness and gratitude are not just trends that are only beneficial for ladies. These can be equally or more beneficial for men, as typically Western society puts more pressure on them to hide feelings and their true self which leads to unacknowledged health issues. Mindfulness is a variety of practices and techniques, some listed above which give us time to learn to be healthier, more productive, positive and happier people who live in society. The articles we read about emotional intelligence being a highly desired skill in any environment typically fail to outline that those with high levels of emotional intelligence have it because they slow their minds and reactions down by being balanced. There are some people who have learned this early in life, however since everyone experiences trauma this is on a spectrum and the good news is that by incorporating mindfulness practices in our life, we can all become a little more emotionally intelligent to improve our environments, health and be happier people who deserve a little quiet time alone and we can share our outlook with anyone who comes in contact with us positively. Being grateful and living life through the lens of appreciation this is a gift we can give ourselves and others.
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