The dimensions of diversity start in life when we are born as our identity, and we evolve from there. We learn to accept ourselves and our diversity as we grow in our secondary environment and others which builds our security to accept our identity in life. Each person is different no matter how we look, act, think, family, where we live, and what we experience in life. We are born as individuals with our primary identifiers that shape us through our experiences in each environment. There are many things that impact how we feel about ourselves and others based upon what we learn and how we evolve in the layers of our environments.
The primary dimension is how we are born and does not typically change. The secondary layer impacts how we think and feel as we go through life because we learn behavior patterns in our family. In the secondary dimension we learn how we feel about ourselves based upon what our family and community models. The family experiences and those of the generations prior to ours in our family tree create how we learn to accept who we are. These thoughts and behaviors become our comfort zone. We develop based on the thoughts and actions of our parents, their parents, extended families and those in our environment. We become comfortable with what they say, how they speak to us, whether we are guilted to accept less or whether we are supported to get more as well as the behaviors we are willing to accept from those we develop relationships in the other dimensions as we age. This is because we are impacted or conditioned by the good and bad trauma in our life based upon what happened to us early in life or our relatives and situations that occurred in their lives. As we evolve through life we are affected by the additional layers, such as society, work, culture what we learn and eventually where we live. Early behaviors and beliefs in our second layer or dimension of life affect our acceptance of how we identify and feel secure enough to embrace our differences.
In many families we experience a balance of love, truth, acceptance, mindset, stresses and support to become secure enough to be comfortable to be our own person in mind creating self-trust and security. We can then become independent and develop our own values, beliefs, opinions and acceptance. The balance may also include living with some stress or trauma such as yelling, divorce, poverty, health issues, crime, addictions, prejudice, gossip, control, violence, insecurity and death which can create chaos, high stress and leads to clouded judgement or taking on the beliefs, behaviors and self-esteem of those in our family. Even if we are born into the comfortable environment, we can take on the stress the previous generations experienced in the second dimension because one or both parents learned those behaviors from their parents which can affect self-esteem, insecurity and lead to co-dependent relationships. This impacts how we accept ourselves in our life because when a person is not encouraged to evolve and develop their own identity and thoughts it prevents them from accepting who they are as an individual and creates a limited mindset. Staying close to a family and environments as we are growing creates a lack of knowledge to develop our own experiences, opinions and identities. The co-dependency learned in life impacts our acceptance of ourselves and keeps us held back by fear of the unknown or guilt from the pressure of thinking differently. When we are stressed due to fear of being uncomfortable learning new things and developing relationships with those different in any capacity, we limit our ability to truly accept ourselves or others creating judgement. This happens by insecurity to leave our early environment where we lack the knowledge and ability to trust our own thoughts causing anxiety. The lack of self-awareness and self-acceptance from the fear of stress leaving our comfort zone prevents us from becoming the person we were meant to be authentically. When we only learn in life based upon the current environment, we are willing to accept less due to the behaviors of those who taught us. This enables us to succumb to peer pressures based upon not being secure as a child and in our families or early environments to think, act or be confident being different. The more secure we are as people, the more we feel comfort in our own self-identity and do not seek it externally in validation from others. People who are secure and accepting of themselves are kinder and accepting others embracing and learning from those different than them. Acceptance and self-security is not about money, position, title, possessions or power this is acceptance of being our authentic selves not about what we have. It changes how we feel about life, keeping an open mind to grow and be comfortable for who we truly are. Being self-aware creates gratitude, self-security and confidence decreasing fear and stress from pressure. A person can be alone, celebrate their wins and losses without feeling bad or compare themself to others. It creates the ability to see the world positively and handle the hardest situations with grace as well as resilience to not let it hold them back.
Mindfulness is also important to self-acceptance, because it promotes individual time to get clarity in mind, be at peace and keeping external chaos or distractions at bay for just a few moments. Acceptance embraces people and environments or situations as they are, not trying to change them. It is good for mental health because we learn to cope with stress positively which can different than the behavior patterns in our families. If we learn new patterns, we may not cope as previous generations which may have created addictions, anger, prejudices or other unhealthy behaviors. The positive coping skills of trauma create resilience to handle stress without it impacting us negatively and to get ahead even when things are tough or stressful. Learning new behaviors from the other dimensions of our life can create strong boundaries, gives us more information and make us independent people and thinkers.
Accepting ourselves for who we are in life truly sets us free from preconceived notions, beliefs or guilt from others. This allows us to be secure being confident with internal validation of our own opinions and reduces biases and prejudices from what we hear or see. Acceptance of self allows us to look at our life as we see it and we can take experiences for what they are to go forward with a positive mindset, open mind allowing us to learn. Acceptance leads to gratitude, setting our own expectations and goals, it does not hold us back or stuck. Accepting ourselves allows us to embrace this in others which creates true relationships and encourages authenticity which reduces fears. Teaching and training of acceptance in schools and workplaces ongoing as a requirement would enable us to learn to be happy as our authentic self and would reduce bullying or fears of what we do not know about others. We can all be kinder and live in healthier environments with less stress accepting everyone and celebrating differences respectfully.